I would try to find a red strobing bicycle light that can fit into a pan or bowl- that would create light on actor's faces.  Smoke for the effect is a different matter- there are small smoke/vapor devices available, maybe you can find one of the smaller ones that an actor can have on their body, and then have a tube go from the smoker, down a sleeve, to have smoke coming from close to the pan.  I believe the scene calls for the effect to come on stage while burning, then be put down on a table.  For the suggestion of the fact that the family deals with this all the time, have metal trivets around for the pan toland on. 

 

One of those Halloween  flaming silk cauldrons might work as well with red gels and most of the other lights off.

 

For the conflagration in the basement I fed a separate substantial sound system backstage with a sub-woofer the sounds of a bunch of explosions and pops with a little reverb that I complied in an audio editing program. The same sound was fed to a disco lighting machine in "color organ mode" with 4 different colors (reds and oranges) just outside the door to the basement. To ad a little sparkle to the effect I made up a bar of four single use cameras and rewired them to a "nail board" so that I could randomly flash them, and they got gels as well. Just after the effect started, I let out a fairly short burst of smoke that sort-of billowed into the room toward the end. It was pretty effective.

 

I have not tried it, but yo may be able to fill a trash bag from a smoke machine outside and then squeeze the bag to release the smoke. That may be controlled enough that it won't set off the alarms in the management or the theater.

 

Good luck